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Just Like Baby Jesus

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008
long before bedtime

long before bedtime

Last night, while I was reading one of their bedtime books, City Mouse and Country Mouse, Jack and Liam got in an argument. I sit between their beds when I read and since I was red-eyed tired, the quarrel barely registered in my consciousness. It was not a wildly passionate argument, more of a run of the mill difference of opinion. I was not really listening to the content or details of their disagreement, which had something to do with the workings of a mousetrap, but instead just sort of mentally spacing out waiting for the break and calm that would signal I could keep reading, finish the book and finally get them to bed. I heard my voice make a few auto-piloted efforts to smooth things over and move things along. And then I heard Liam cry out, “Just like Baby Jesus!”

Well that caught my attention. Just for the record, Jesus is referred to only as “Baby Jesus” by Jack and Liam. While I was raised Catholic, religion has not exactly become a formal institution in our household, much to my parents’ dismay. Oban was raised Hippie and I have become, more or less, the kind of person I recall being so frowned upon in mass as a child; the holiday Catholic. When we took Jack and Liam to mass on Mother’s Day this year, it was the first time they had been in a church since my grandfather’s funeral mass in January. Jesus, in my boys’ experience, was the very special baby born on Christmas, the one in the nativity scenes and the one so many Christmas carols are about. However, in the church on Mother’s Day, my five year old boys were suddenly and totally transfixed by the violent images of the Stations of the Cross.

“Who’s that bloody guy, Mama?” Liam shouted out in the middle of the Mass.

“That’s Jesus,” I said, uncomfortably. Liam looked at me like I was either kidding or crazy.

“Not the baby Jesus. the grown up Jesus,” I whispered.

“What are they doing to him, Mama?” Liam asked pointing to an image of Jesus being nailed to the cross, to which I stuttered and stammered for a while until Jack asked, “How old to we have to be to watch Jesus the Movie, Mama?”

And despite that conversation in a crowded pew, which really only grew messier and trickier as it went on, they apparently still refer to Jesus, the good guy who got nailed to a cross by the mean guys, as Baby Jesus. I looked down at the book in my lap. There was a picture of a mousetrap. City Mouse was showing Country Mouse how to steal a piece of cheese from it, much to Country Mouse’s shock and horror. Jack and Liam were arguing over the workings of the mousetrap, trying to figure how the trap would actually kill the mouse. Liam felt he had won the argument by surmising that the mouse would be pinned down by the metal bars, in a crucifixion fashion, and left to die, “just like Baby Jesus.”

“Right, Mama?” Liam asked.

Trying to take Baby Jesus out of it, I explained how a mouse trap is triggered and agreed that yes, the mouse would likely either be squished and killed by the metal bar or at least trapped by it until it died, which proved to be an adequately gruesome explanation and sent them spinning into a few seconds of thankfully quiet, enraptured contemplation.

“And that’s why Country Mouse doesn’t want to live in the city, even if he has to eat yucky roots,” Jack said after a while.

“ Yes, I suppose that’s right,” I said, and then I finished reading the story.

Barack Steady

Monday, September 22nd, 2008
Last week I went to Espanola, New Mexico to hear Barack Obama speak.   After dropping my boys off at kindergarten, I climbed into a minivan along with seven other Obama Mama friends from Taos.  We have eighteen young children between us, the youngest of whom  joined us for our adventure.  We drove through the snaking canyon, shimmering in autumn yellow,  down to Espanola, the self-proclaimed low rider capital of the world and the town with the highest per-capita heroine addiction in the nation, looking for inspiration and the best chicken tacos with guacamole in all of America.

Barack waves to us in Espanola. Photo by Dorie Hagler.

Last week I went to Espanola, New Mexico to hear Barack Obama speak. After dropping my boys off at kindergarten, I climbed into a minivan along with seven other Obama Mama friends from Taos. We have eighteen young children between us, the youngest of whom joined us for our adventure. We drove through the winding canyon, shimmering in autumn yellow, down to Espanola, the self proclaimed lowrider capital of the world and the town with the highest per capita heroine addiction in the nation, looking for inspiration and the best chicken tacos with guacamole in all of America.

I began volunteering at the Obama office in Taos just last week. It’s a funny little scene, complete with the requisite Taos crowd of middle aged hippies, artists, Hispanic grandmothers, pueblo kids, and ski bums already waiting for snow, with an adorable sophomore from Stanford running the joint. I doubt he had ever heard of Taos before being shipped here. And when it was announced that Obama would come to speak in Espanola, my heart welled up with the kind of ironic contentment that I have experienced only in my most New Mexican of moments. For lack of a better analogy, this event would be like seeing the pope in Fort Lauderdale – during spring break. And it would be happening only one hour’s drive away. Obamanos!

Shedding my basic black top for a ridiculously tight, cap sleeved, pink and brown Mama for Obama tee provided by my friend Dorie, I found myself looking like the thirty seven year old, wrinkled version of a pre teen Courtney Cox in Bruce Springsteen’s Dancing in the Dark video. I mention this only to show how much I love Obama. And I’m not sure if it was the dry, relentless ninety degree heat that day or the aforementioned tee but I was shocked to find myself reeking of body odor within the first hour of waiting on line near the Lotaburger parking lot in Espanola. And still I wore the shirt, which again goes to show how much I love Obama.

We waited for two hours before the gates even opened, and another two inside. If someone had only mentioned that Obama was scheduled to meet with tribal leaders early that morning in Albuquerque, we would have known to sleep in and gone out for coffee. Then again, it may never occurred to me that someone as powerful as the democratic nominee for president would fall into the same time warp that everyone else does the minute they step foot in New Mexico and especially when they happen to step foot in a meeting with tribal elders. And in classic New Mexico form, following that meeting, Obama’s bus driver chose to take him up north “the scenic way.” By the time he finally arrived, my physician friend Erin had treated several people who had passed out from heat exhaustion in the crowd that had swelled to 10,000, although no one complained, because nothing ever happens on time in Espanola. And besides, the music they kept pumping through the loudspeakers was really funky and good.

The sharpshooters on the roof of the adobe church even seemed relatively relaxed. As a safety precaution, the plaza was entirely ringed by empty school buses. A single helicopter circled as black suited secret service agents dripped in the heat. As he walked out on stage, smiling widely and glowing with an electric calm, my eyes literally welled up with tears and I said a silent prayer that this man should remain safe. While clapping and clamoring for a view, the entire crowd seemed to exhale a collective sigh of relief that he had, at last, arrived.

After fumbling the name of Espanola’s mayor, prouncing it something like “Mayest” instead of Maestas, which reminded me of my original “anglo” mispronunciation of the name of the principal of the Taos Middle School where I used to teach, Reynaldo Quintana as “Mr. Quinn/tan/a” instead of “Mr. Keen/tah/nah,” Obama recovered skilfully. Bill Richardson, who had delivered a rousing introduction, seemed to be willing him through it as he sat nearby, arms folded across is chest, wearing a black shirt with a traditional bolo tie. Obama spoke primarily about the economy, following the stock market’s dramatic plunge the day before. And while it felt to me that Wall Street’s cavernous towers were entire light years and galaxies away from the Espanola plaza that day, the real message that was delivered was an unspoken one, that of calm, thoughtful, honest and gifted leadership. Here was a genuinely warm and extraordinarily intelligent human being, speaking not in condescending sound bites to a rural community but in forthright, respectful, sensible, and graceful language. Bottom line; I trusted him. In fact, the dorky middle schooler in me who played the bells in the marching band wearing a green and yellow polyester suit on equally hot and sweltering days decades ago trusted him. And even more importantly, though I would not wish the laundry list of profound problems the next president will inherit on my worst enemy, I would entrust the futures of our collective eighteen children to him.

We left the rally sun burned and dehydrated, stopping at Dairy Queen for cokes and at a roadside shack called Sugars in the riverside town of Embudo for chile cheese fries that never materialized because they ran out of food. As governor of territorial New Mexico Lew Wallace said back in the 1880′s, “Every calculation based on experience elsewhere fails in New Mexico.” I arrived home hours late, tired, hungry and undeniably grateful for my day’s filling slice of American pie. Si se puede! Viva Obama!